We all want to feel loved, appreciated and validated. We want to have loving relationships, professional success, financial stability and the ability to enjoy ourselves in life. Yet many people are unhappy with their lives and relationships because they lack a feeling of love, validation or appreciation. If you are unhappy with your life, I hope that this blog can help you begin to focus on manifesting your best life.
The blog title is straightforward and indicates the posts will be about how to manifest a better life. In order for us to do that effectively though, there's a few things we need first: A clear understanding of how our minds work so that we can get them working for us instead of against; An understanding of what it means to be happy, content and at peace with ourselves; And finally, we need a way to use that understanding so we can manifest our best lives (AKA success in all areas of your life).
Understand how the mind works
This is very important to understand because if you don't know why something isn't working for you, or why you can't get what you want, then there's a good chance that whatever methods you're using to attempt to change your life will not work for long.
So I'm going to spend a lot of this blog talking about the mind and how it works. If you are not interested in learning more on this topic, here is very short synopsis: The mind is like a computer, but it's also more like an actor because as we will see, it can be programmed to do and say whatever we want. The programming of our minds begins when we are small children through the messages and beliefs that we are taught by everyone around us: Our parents, siblings, other family members, teachers, friends etc. We then continue to add our own programming into this at an increasing rate as we grow up, but after a certain age and once we become more independent of others, the programming slows down or sometimes even stops. What is important to realize though is that by this point it's too late for most people because they have programmed their minds with so many lies, limiting beliefs and unproductive thoughts that their minds are now operating in a way that is detrimental to them. They may even have programmed it so well they no longer believe it is possible for them to succeed in life, get what they desire or hope for etc.
These are the people who will tell you "You can't do that!" or "You can't make a lot of money!" or "Money doesn't grow on trees!" because that is what society has programmed their minds to believe. Now, these people may have very well had some negative experiences in the past that caused them to program their own minds in this way and it makes perfect sense why they would! The thing is, beliefs are just that: They're only a belief. You can choose to believe one thing or another, it's how you decide to program your mind that matters in the end.
The reason I say people have programmed their minds so well is because generally speaking, even after they realize they were lied to or misinformed by these past influences , they still have so much programming in their minds that they can't imagine it being any other way. You'll find this with a lot of people who are unhappy because they don't understand why they aren't as happy as the next person or why others seem to be doing better than them, but instead of questioning what might be happening (and then possibly discovering the reasons for this), they continue to believe that what they were taught was true.
Now, at this point you might be saying "This is all well and good, but does it actually matter? We can't change these things now because we're already adults." And that's a fair point to raise which brings me to:
Understand what it means to be happy and content with oneself
Many people feel that life is not fair, but what we can always control is how we experience it. One of the main principles behind the law of attraction is that like attracts like. So if you are feeling happy and content with yourself, then you will find those things all around you - if you are feeling unhappy, jealous or negative about yourself and your life, then it's likely you will find evidence of those things everywhere. You see, we cannot change the external world unless we first change our internal world - which is why it is so important to understand what makes a person happy.
If you want to change your life for the better, first begin by changing how you feel about yourself because no one can truly feel good if they feel like something is missing within. The first step is to stop focusing on what you don't have or who you're not. No one can ever truly be happy if they are constantly looking at what's missing in their lives. To feel this sense of happiness and contentment within you might begin by doing things that make you happy. Some may say "I don't know what makes me happy!" Which may imply that you need to explore yourself in this way. If you are still unsure of what it is that truly makes you happy, simply start by appreciating all the little things in life and practicing random acts of kindness towards others. Sometimes we just need to stop focusing on our own problems and begin helping other people with theirs.
How to Put that Knowledge into Action
Try to focus on the little things in life. You know, enjoy your cup of coffee and read a book with some friends over dinner every once in a while. These types of things will bring about great feelings that can make you feel confident and happy with yourself overall. Once those feelings are there, they will help you to realize that your dreams are achievable and lead you right to the perfect job with lots of money and all the love you could ever want. It all begins with simple things like enjoying the things you have in life. Don't dwell too much on what you don't have; focus on the abundance that's all around you. No one ever feels truly content unless they love what they do; so find ways to use your talents. Love your job and work hard if you want a promotion. Just remember, the most important step is to focus on feeling happy first. Then everything else will follow like magic.